What To Do If You Experience Sexual Harassment

Sexual harassment. Those are two words that hang in the air. They make people uncomfortable just thinking about them. But what about the person experiencing it every day while trying to earn a paycheck, further their career, and stay safe? If you or someone you know is on the receiving end of sexual harassment, there are things you can do.

Speak to a Lawyer

When you are amid ongoing sexual harassment in your workplace, it may seem like the end of the world. You wonder what to do next and how to keep going to work every day, even though you have to carry on.

Your first course of action should be to report the offender to your company’s Human Resources department and/or your supervisor. Put a complaint in writing and make it official. Next, contact a Sexual Harassment Defense Lawyer. They specialize in these types of legal cases and will walk you through the process of what to do with compassion and care. They may advise you to file a police report as well.

Schedule a Counseling Appointment

When going through any type of trauma, whether it is emotional, physical, or sexual, it is important to talk with someone about your feelings. Unpacking those emotions is not a one-and-done event. Trauma unfolds and triggers in varied ways depending on the person experiencing it and what happened. Find a licensed therapist near you and begin your journey.

If you feel uncertain about seeking therapy, watch this video for insightful information on when you should go to counseling.

Prioritize Safety

If you feel unsafe, you should leave as soon as possible and contact the police. Some other tactics include:

Ask another co-worker to walk you to your vehicle if the parking lot is dark, isolated, or if you park in a parking garage.
Carry state-legal pepper spray or mace.
Do not wear earbuds while walking alone.
Keep your keys ready and in your hand so you can open your car immediately.
Lock your doors as soon as you get into your car.
Keep your purse on your shoulder or across your body to ensure your hands are free to open and close the car door quickly.
Carry pepper spray or mace in your pocket at work.
Tell someone else you feel unsafe and why you feel that way.

It Is Not Your Fault (Repeat That)

When you receive unwanted comments or physical touching when wearing certain clothing or are in the supply closet by yourself, remember that those unwelcome advances are not your fault. You did not ask for them. How you dress on any particular day is not a yes, a welcome mat, or an invitation to your body. You have agency, and everyone else should respect that. Always. No matter what.

Look in the mirror and remind yourself that you are a good person with value. You can and should continue to be the wonderful person that existed before the untoward attention came your way. It may take a while to be comfortable again, but you are worth it, and that is what therapy is for – to help you work through your experiences.

Speak up, speak out, and find the help you need today. Seek legal counsel, professional therapy, practice self-care, and remember that you are not alone.